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Raising Violet – The Daddy Diaries
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The next Danika Patrick or Ronda Rousey? |
Introduction to Fatherhood
by: Anthony Hayes
From one new father to another Congratulations on the news of your little one entering the world! You are about to embark on the single most difficult, yet rewarding journey of your life.
The true test of your manhood is about to commence and you’ve never been more prepared than you are right now.
The ever-elusive piece to your puzzle is now complete.
If you are anything like me you may have purchased or been recommended the stereotypical publications in search of answers. Titles such as “What to expect when you’re expecting.”
My advice do not waste your time. Not to discredit the author (whom had sold 14.5 million copies as of 2008) source Wikipedia; however most of the information is antiquated and quite frankly common sense.
There is nothing that can prepare you for life’s endeavors other than life itself. If you have a sibling, niece or nephew, younger cousins; you’ve had a first hand glimpse into the life of parenthood.
The well wishes of friends and family are to be expected. But wouldn’t it give you more confidence if you received this same message from an unbiased viewpoint? I wish I had a complete stranger tell me what I’m about to tell you…
_“You’re going to be a great Dad!”
The tools and resources you need for fatherhood have already been subconsciously implanted within your DNA. The trick is figuring out a way to tap into the hidden potential that lies within us all. The parental instinct will kick in when you least expect it. So hang on and enjoy the ride. Until then you must keep cool, calm, and collected. Not only for your sanity, but the sanity for those around you. Do the best you possibly can to not bring any unwanted stress into an already stressful situation. Your significant other needs a rock right now and buddy YOU ARE IT.
In the weeks leading up to the birth of my first child Violet, the anticipation I felt was insurmountable. I wanted to very much to meet her already. We often stayed awake at night asking questions like “Who is she going to resemble or look like more?” and “What is her personality going to be like?”
In time, all these questions and more will be answered. For now, just know one thing…You are capable enough, definitely strong enough, and more than good enough to be a great Dad. If you find yourself getting overwhelmed here’s a few tips:
- Just Breathe, Just Be – YouTube some videos on meditation and relaxation techniques. As well as soothing oriental music (links provided under ‘resources’). Meditation is for everyone, not just Monks and Kung Fu masters. Forget about what you think you know about meditating. Chances are you have been misinformed are likely high. Our mind is constantly polluted by outside influences. Oftentimes it is difficult to separate our own thoughts from the thoughts of others. The inner reflection of oneself is a useful tool to differentiate the two. Meditation is a tool that can be sharpened and over time, used in a multitude of situations requiring focus and a clear head.
- Do you and Keep on Flowing -Don’t change your daily routines or way of thinking just yet. Do however prepare yourself to embrace the new life you are about to begin. If you are feeling uncertainty, fear, or any changes in mood or overall well-being it doesn’t make you any less of a man. It makes you human. These are called ’emotions’ and it’s okay to get in touch with these now and again. You have my permission and recommendation to do so #brocode #guycode No one is going to revoke your “man card.” Talk it out. Leaving that stuff inside becomes toxic and has some serious side effects. If need be I got your back. Reach out. You can reach me HERE via my personal email.
“Control the controllable, as for the rest Keep on flowing…Just be.”
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